You Don’t Figure Out What You Want To Do Till Your Late Twenties

You don’t have enough life experience to make definite decisions till your in your late twenties. In elementary school years, you have fantasies about being the next President, being an astronaut, or a professional athlete. In High School you start to find out what you like and dislike. And then you have to go to college. Its not enough time. None of us have had enough life experience at the age of eighteen to know what works for us, what we actually want to do forty hours of week for years on end. It is simply not enough time. This is a problem overlooked too much when people look start planning their future out in their first years of college.
I was also one of these people. I could talk for days about what I was going to do and what my life would be when I was still in High School. The slap in the face was going to college and actually doing what I had always been talking about. The problem was I was missing the experience to back up these claims. There are so many people who go into college talking about how they want to be engineers, businessmen, doctors, physicists, but paradoxically no one at the age of eighteen has ever worked in these fields, or even knows how well they handle the action of work in the first place. Colleges expect students to make educated and well thought decisions in area’s they have no understanding in, only having a vague “feeling” that they would enjoy being a veterinarian. They don’t understand the dollars and cents of these fields and the work that is done. A student will start college in an engineering program loving the math and science involved in being an engineer, only to find that they hate the communication and teamwork aspect involved in working on a project together. A student interested in being a doctor will love learning about the body only to find the long hours and constant repetition of seeing so many different people makes the working feel robotic and soulless. This is not a definite for all people who enter college, but the question becomes: how could you possibly know if you dislike or like something if you have never done it over long periods of time?
80% of college bound students are undecided when first entering college, and 50% of those who do declare change their majors. A regular college degree usually takes around four years, but switching your major in your junior year can add a semester or even sometimes an entire year. Students are arriving at colleges having little knowledge on what they want to do yet are still expected to pick what school they want to attend and start paying thousands of dollars in student loans.
So I’d say it takes a person twenty five years before they can say they know themselves well enough to make well informed major life decisions. At this point in a persons life they’ve been on their own for a while, had a full time job, had a girlfriend or two, paid some bills, and found out their own daily routine that works for them. In your middle to late twenties you’ve seen some things and had to figure out a few problems on your own. You haven’t figured everything out, but you have a good foundation.
This whole idea of having to go to college immediately when you graduate high school works on a numbers basis of trying to get a certain amount of people each year to graduate, but falls apart on the individual case by case basis. What ends up happening is students make ill informed decisions on what career path they want to pursue,  resulting in a majority of people having jobs they neither like of dislike, but just kind of put up with. You get the numbers you want, but what is the quality people are getting?
So if you’re in college right now and don’t have a clue about what you want to do or you’re still in high school and don’t know what you want to do, follow that feeling. Don’t feel pressured into making decisions where you don’t know the answer. It is OK to take a year or a couple to live your life and experience what you like and dislike. In the end it will leave you with a better goal set for yourself and a freedom to make an informed choice, rather than making the wrong one and finding out it’s too late too fix it.

Why Getting Up At 5am Every Morning Is Amazing

Waking up early in the morning for no immediate reason doesn’t seem to make sense at first. I went through high school always getting out of bed with what seemed like seconds to spare before the bus would be outside waiting for me. I never considered the possibility of voluntarily getting out of bed before you absolutely had to. The fumbling and rush of my past mornings is night and day compared to the thoughtfulness and relaxation of my current routine.

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The Illusion Of Adulthood

When I was young, say about seven or eight, I thought adults were geniuses. It baffled me how my dad knew how to fix the lawnmower when it stopped working. I was amazed when my mom would drive for hours on miles of roads and still be able to find her way back to our house.  “This stuff seems impossible,” I would think to myself. The way I imagined it, you were a kid till you were seventeen, and then on the night of your eighteenth birthday you went to bend and poof! You woke up an eighteen year old adult, now gifted with the knowledge on how to file taxes and work a computer. This silly idea faded as I started to age, but I still thought until recently that being an adult meant you took careful thought into all of your actions, using your years of experience to make the best possible decision for each situation you were faced with.

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Anger In Our Everyday Lives

 I had just arrived at work for my construction job one day and was standing around the room we had been working on for the last week. I was looking at what we would be doing for the day while waiting for my boss to show up to tell me what he wanted done. In he walked, sunglasses on, frown on his face, and a huff in his step. “What?” I asked. ‘Those damn idiots.” he said. “Those fucking idiots. They fucked up all the door frames. Now I got to fix them, all of them. Those fucking idiots. I got shit to do man, I can’t be messing with all this. Now I got to fix it. I’m pissed off.” For the next four hours he and I went about framing and leveling door frames, my boss moaning and complaining the entire time about how much he hated doing it. I also hated working that day. It wasn’t the door frames that ruined it. My boss ruined it.

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Why Feeling Sad Makes Me Feel Alive

It’s a weird statement at first. Feeling sad is something that is viewed as a negative emotion in our society, the opposite of happiness and therefore an emotion that is ugly and should be avoided and traded for joy as much as possible. Typically when talking about sadness with others, people recommend ways to detour around feeling’s of depression and sadness with the quickest possible way back to happy feelings and good times. You hear it from all sides. Smile more, wake up enjoying life everyday, be thankful for what you have, don’t dwell on the negatives, always be looking forward, there are so many reasons to be happy, let go of the things that make you feel sad, etc… And I think this is a load of complete, harmful bullshit. Continue reading

We Can Do Anything But Not Everything

Have you ever found yourself trapped in life by “obligations” you don’t want to do, but feel like you have to? Perhaps your parents asked you to help them clean their house, or they say, “Carry this downstairs for me, thanks” without even pausing to see if you will say yes or no? If you have experienced this, as I have countless times, it means you essentially been trained to believe you don’t have a choice in doing things. This is called learned helplessness. It occurs when you have felt so long as if there is no alternative to saying “Yes” to something that you have forgotten that it’s OK to say “No”.

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Your Job Is Like A Time Machine

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This was something I noticed awhile ago when I first starting working full time at my construction job. I would wake up at 6:00 a.m, get out of bed at 6:30, make breakfast, get dressed and leave by 7:00. I would arrive at 7:30 and the day would begin. Haul materials, screw in boards, put up drywall, sweep the floor. Stop for lunch at 12:00, start back up at 12:30, and then it all starts again.  Clean the windows, pick up plywood, fix some holes, put down some track. Before you knew it 4:30 p.m had rolled around and the day was done. Get in my car, get home by 5:00 and make dinner. Eat, take a shower, and go workout by 6:15. Lift weights, sweat, get some water from the drinking fountain. Get home at 7:30. Take another shower, have a snack, get dressed and it was 8:00. Watch some YouTube video’s, be in bed by 9:30 and asleep by 10:00. Weeks would go by this way, this routine of work and home activities eating away chunks of my twenty-four hour day until every second seemed to be taken towards some activity. Routine made my life slip by in alarming chunks.

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Is Going to College Worth It?

What’s the Return on Investment in College?

 College is weird. Statistically, people who go to college make more money, and that’s just plain true, there’s no denying that. So we can all agree that if you’re going to work a forty hour work week like the rest of us, it only makes sense to go to college and get your degree, as you’ll simply make more money per hour than someone who only has their high school diploma or nothing at all.  So, if you can afford it/have the opportunity to, go to college as soon as possible, right? Uh…maybe? See, college in theory is a great idea. You can go to a school where you  learn about things you find interesting and also learn in-depth about a career you want to pursue, getting you ready to hit the ground running at a job that requires a couple of years of studying. The problem?

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Reliable People are Surprisingly Rare

One of the biggest slaps in the face for me was thinking about people I could build something with. It seems really simple. You have an idea, and you need someone reliable to help you make it a reality. It can be anything. Starting a business, going on a diet, sticking to a workout routine, anything you can think of that can involve two people. Easy. simple. You go up to a person, explain to them your idea, see if they agree of disagree, and if they agree, then boom, you’re both on your way to getting a task done. Easy right?

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